Worries, anxieties, negative thoughts; we all have them as humans, but ‘modern’ people treat them as necessities. They think they have to feel inadequate and worry all the time to make sure everything that they do is as perfect as it can be.
Overwhelmed by dreaming up new ways to improve the quality of life, there is a tendency to overlook the most important thing to go about achieving this - happiness.
Here’s a simple question: how many of you can keep yourself happy and worry-free for 24 hours straight?
I bet most of you are reluctant to raise your hands. Some of you might even fire back to me and say, “Everyone has their own problems!”
Indeed, we are so inundated with problems. But how do you define problems? Your past mistakes?
Everyone makes mistakes, big and small. No one can stop the rain from falling. So why give a damn? We just have to learn how to dance in the rain. Face them. Treat them as life lessons. Most importantly, what happen in the past stays in the past. You’ve gone through it, so leave it behind, learn from it, and move on.
What about future concerns, you say?
Wasting your time for things that haven’t actually happened is probably worse than actually facing them. Life is too short to be constantly worrying over all the nitty-gritty things.
Then what should be a problem? If your beloved ones, like your grandma, died, or someone so important to you is not in this world anymore, there is nothing you can do about it. And it is more than okay to cry a river. But if you got dumped by a guy who had been treating you badly or found out that some of your colleagues had been talking behind your back, it’s far from the end of the world, my dear friend.
Don’t cry over people that take away all your happiness, because they don’t deserve your tears. And it is practically impossible that everyone is pleased with you all of the time, and that you just have to accept it.
My point? Stop. Worrying. Now. Just as Fritz Perls said, “You are not in this world to live up to other people’s expectations, nor should you feel the world must live up to yours”. So give yourself a break, before it’s too late. You deserve to be happy.